Act Like Men Part 4 –
WaterMark Community Church – Pastor Todd Wagner
Video Link: http://www.watermark.org/media/enabling-mamas-and-their-entitled-little-men/2038/
Be watchful, stand firm in the faith, act like men, be strong. Let all that you do be done in love. (1 Cor. 16:13, 14 ESV)
- The reality of life in this world is that we all have been disappointed or wounded in ways that challenge (not necessarily control) our ability to live strong, healthy and productive lives.
- For men to understand what it means to act like men they have to face the realities that effect why they are the way they are including:
- Absent or abusive dads
- Enabling or overbearing moms.
- Forming an unhealthy emotional intimacy with mom (even when created unintentionally) can affect our healthy development as men.
- The effects of an enabling or overbearing mom are subtle and disguised:
- It is not a wound caused by abuse or neglect but disguised as care and over – attention.
- It looks like love but feels like control. It starts with an absent father.
- It is inflicted by needy and hurting moms, many of them “married” single-moms.
- Feminization of men.
- Indecisiveness in men.
- Men who look to their wives to play the role that mom played.
- Men become overly passive, apathetic, isolated, afraid, making decisions based on emotions OR they become overly dominant with regard to women and lazy, demanding or abusive with their leadership.
- Face the truth with confidence. Don’t use your past as an excuse.
- Instead, exercise faith.
- Gain a clear understanding of what it means to be a man and remind yourself who men are ultimately accountable to.
- Hint: It ain’t Mama.
- Confess your history of settling for less than your were created for.
- Be a man. Leave your childhood behind.
- Gently, lovingly but clearly break up with mom.
- A confident man addresses the realities of his past and the responsibilities of the present.